oh this few days had indeed been rather busy or rather many thing i thought had some feeling drawn upon me.
first on tuesday i received news that my dad's real mum passed away. (to cut short the story, my dad was the given away child since young to the elder bro, so i have 4 grandma, and 3 grandad... --- one set of them is the biological parents of my dad, one set of them is my current grandparents, then my mum side my grandpa got 2 wife... so i have a rather complicated history). yupe back to the point was that i didn't go down to the funeral wake on the 1st day due to exam. so i only make a trip down on wednesday.Oh on that day that i went down, the 1st thing my long time no see uncle instead of asking how i am...
He started off:" How is your uni result?"me reply:" not very gd, juz passed loh"
he replied:" very hard meh, thought shld be easy, my son got 4As wor..."me embarassed and not sure wat to reply: stunned for a long time then said "Ok" and move away.
Following that during the funeral wake, we are not close to this side of the relative lah... to be frank lah, the biological side of my dad are not too close de wor. purposely avoided the irritating real sister of my dad... she oso super like to compare ppl and step on ppl de loh. i remember years ago, she say that me and my bro are shit lah, can't study de. haha... so i didn't even bother to speak to her. simply avoided her loh. Anyway, during the service, she is oso christian if i am not wrong, so she can't go through the chinese "dong dong chang" service. so most of the time, she and her kids are sitting at the side loh.Anyway my family of 4 felt very out of place. coz we are not really part of that side of the family. somemore if u r the given away kid right, not very right to take both side of descendant thingy. As my dad say to me" we are the extra actor in the session." juz send my biological grandma off loh.
Then when we are through the service yesterday, an auntie who is the wife of that uncle who spoke to me abt my result de. something suprising caught me really off guard.
Conversation started off.
auntie: " sihui, come over!"me and bro walk over to her
auntie: " hey, u muz called my daughter "jiejie- big sister"me: thinking that her daughter is juz 19 to 20 years old. like 2 years young than me lah. wan me to call her jiejie... i was rather puzzled...
auntie further explained:" my husband is the 2nd bro, your dad is the 3rd bro. so meimei is higher you by one rank, so u shld call my daughter and son "jiejie and gaogao" me: super suprised... then i reply:"meimei so young, where want me lao auntie to call her jiejie... then she would sound so old."
Then his son try to appease and say:" juz call name will do le lah"
Yah, can see how strange the environment is... but anyway i found some lame excuse and escape...weird weird de...
yupe. so it end off today finally. back to video watching and studying for exam bah...